Just because the ghost and goblin costumes have to be put away, it doesn’t mean that you can’t wear a costume to spice up any night of the year.

Stores like The Red Door and Adam and Eve have sexy costumes all year round.

Want to be a naughty nurse?

You don’t have to wait until Halloween to do that.

So, why should you keep your costuming going all year round? It spices things up when you surprise your mate in something other than black lace or boy shorts.

If you’re going to dress up, then don’t forget the wigs. You can get a wig from a beauty supply store and be the blond that your mate wants to bang. Or that sexy red head he’s been dreaming of.

Why not save the day as a sexy super hero? Now that Halloween is over, that Wonder Woman costume is probably on sale. And dressing like the famous amazon gives you a reason to tie your mate up with your “lasso of truth.”

If you’re not interested in being a hero, because what’s the fun in being a good girl, then be bad ass Catwoman.

Now you can pull out that whip you’ve been hiding underneath your bed. Just keep in mind, bad girls get punished too.

So, you don’t have to wait until Halloween to pull out a costume. You can be sexy and sassy all year round.

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, November 6, 2009 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

• Ladies in  Men’s Shirts only at The Estate.

• Ntrigue at Buckwild.

• Breakfast buffet at The Men’s Club.

• Late night party at the Gold Club.

• DJ Jazzy Jimmy at Dixie’s Tavern.

“Life is short, have an affair” — that’s the tag line of the Ashley Madison Agency.

For those who don’t know, Ashley Madison is a dating Web site for married people (or otherwise attached folks) interested in having a fling. Granted, anyone logging on to Ashley Madison has probably been thinking about having an affair for awhile. With 4.8 million members, Ashley Madison is obviously filling a need.

Noel Biderman, president of the site, recently spoke with Creative Loafing about the popular, and obviously controversial, Internet destination.

Creative Loafing: What is the difference between your Web site and a typical dating Web site?
Noel Biderman: I built Ashley Madison because I came across some research that 30 percent of people that go on Web sites that are for single people are attached. I said “Wow, would these people just prefer a place where they can just say, ‘Hey I’m attached and this is all that I’m looking for?’” So that’s how Ashley Madison was born. And 4.8 million members later, I guess I was right.

You’ve taken some flack for the site.
That’s an understatement.

What do you say to critics who say you’re encouraging bad behavior?
That’s not fair. We don’t know what the justification for an affair is — we just perceive it as someone is doing something wrong. But we don’t know what’s going on in their lives, and for the most part, adults decide what they want to do. A lot of times these people don’t want to leave, they have extenuating circumstances. They have extended family, financial issues and so they can’t just leave.

People who come to your Web site know what they sign up for, right? They aren’t looking for a serious relationship.
There are people here self-publishing, this is what I want and this is why I’m here. There are people that are in sexless relationships, and they’re not happy any more and they are there for that purpose only. They’re not here looking to trade up. There are some people there who are looking for cyber relationships. But the vast majority of people there are looking for intimacy.

Have you been threatened with a lawsuit by the spouse of any of your members? North Carolina has alienation of affection laws on the books.
I don’t know that I know exactly how that law reads. People have to understand what the law really is and sometimes there are archaic laws on the books. Is it the same thing if someone watches pornography and they’re not with their partner? Can they sue then? We decided a long time ago to stop making people wear a scarlet letter. You’re not going to tether people together when their interests diverge.

Here’s a peek at a banned Ashley Madison TV commercial:

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, November 5, 2009 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

• Thumping Thursdays at Scorpios.

• Pure Latin Ecstasy at Halo.

• After work Thursday at Utopia.

• First Thursdays at The Sunset Club.

• Table dances at The Gentleman’s Club.

Need some tips to get it hot and flaming in your bedroom?
Try these positions at home:

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, November 4, 2009 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

• Salsa social and free lesson.

• Guys night out at Uptown Cabaret.

• Karaoke night at The Crazy Horse Show Club.

• Wet Wednesday at Leather and Lace.

• The last Mix at Six of the Season.

If you live in Charlotte, you probably think a good man is hard to find. Although I think a hard man is good to find, I digress.

Guys who have their shit together are few and far between in Charlotte. Those guys who have no drama,  are disease free and childless — know they are in high demand.

Therefore, they are exploring their options. Who can blame them?

But if you don’t want to be someone’s option or a cookie in his package, then follow these steps.

1. Be up front about what you want.

2. Trust what he says about what he wants.

3. Explore your own options. Just because you sleep with a hot guy, it doesn’t mean you want him to be your boyfriend.

4. If you want a serious relationship, say so up front before you get your feelings hurt.

5. Don’t do what you’re not comfortable with. If you don’t want to share, you don’t have to.

Men like variety, as all of my male friends who have cheated or are cheaters keep telling me. Women can experience it too.

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, November 3, 2009 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

• Two for Tuesday at The Crazy Horse

• $2 Tuesday at Club Onyx

• South of The Border Tuesday at Uptown Cabaret

• Wolfmother at The Fillmore

• SIN night at TILT

You’ve gone to the bathroom at your favorite nightclub or seedy restaurant and there it is on the wall, a condom machine.

Inside there are glow in the dark condoms, strawberry flavored ones and the tickler.

Curious, you buy one and decided to try it. Or not.

The Frisky isn’t happy with some novelty condoms.

From the beer stein to the banana, the cow to the devil, the elephant to the zebra, these johnson raincoats are not something most women want anywhere near their hoo-has. One supposes it would be amusing to see a guy tromping around in nothing but the gas mask jimmy, but, for God’s sake, don’t try to do anything with a willy if it’s wearing one of these, ladies.

But safe sex is anything but sexy, sometimes. Why not have fun with condoms? You’re being safe and you’re adding a little spice to you bedroom action. Still, a gas mask covered penis does seem to be a bit much.

And for the record, the tickler condom never seems to work.

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, November 2, 2009 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

• S.I.N at Club Onyx.

• Manic Monday at Wild Wing Cafe.

• Bark at The Moon Night at The Crazy Horse.

• Chubby’s Karaoke at Dixie’s Tavern.

• Find your Muse at The Evening Muse.