Daily Loaf

Ever since I hit my sexual peak around 30, I have been on a continuous hormonal roller coaster full of sexual peaks and valleys. The onset of my swinger life began on one of those highs.

I felt good about myself, wanted more sex, and craved the experience of others. As of late, I have revisited an up swing in the sex drive. I’m constantly aroused and think about sex nonstop. This could be in part because of my hormonal shift, or perhaps that tiny barbell piercing my hood, just above the clitoris. The bead on the end of this barbell quite frequently rubs my clit and results in the feeling that I’m an 18 year old boy in heat. How do you guys stand this?

I like sex, this has not changed, but my need for sex has changed. Some days are worse than others – not meaning that sex arousal is ever a bad thing but normally I want it some days and other times I prefer sleep. Who is responsible for this malicious trick? Men hit their peek in their late teens to early 20s, when most are free from the responsibility of adulthood. But here women are; 30 something, career, children, and horny.

The swinger lifestyle does help with this common affliction, but not every woman is in a position or has the desire to live this lifestyle. Also, the lifestyle doesn’t necessarily combat all the needs or desire for sex, but does explain the majority of swingers in this age range. Swinging is only a small part of my life and doesn’t always take place weekly or even monthly. How does this help my need for sex on a daily basis? My husband is not complaining about my new found sexual enthusiasm, but the look of exhaustion on his face after another romp makes me feel slightly guilty…but not too much.

I have to wonder how other women fair during this crazy time of life. Do these feelings bring about the need to seek gratification in other ways or from other people?

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