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It’s a huge turn-on when, in the heat of passion, the connections are seamless. It’s like driving a manual car: in the hands of a competent driver, the ride is as seamless as in an automatic. You start off in first gear, getting the engine warm, then really get the wheels turning in second. Next you switch to third and things are really starting to heat-up. In fourth she really shows what she’s worth, and if you’re lucky, you can get into fifth. From there it’s a smooth drive. Some men can switch gears in the bedroom like professionals; others fumble through the steps like a kid forced to drive a stick shift for the first time in driver’s ed, stalling several times and having to start over.

A clumsy hook-up can kill the mood faster than your grandmother walking-in. This post will hopefully help alleviate some of that awkwardness by teaching a key step to smoothly transitioning from second to third gear: the bra removal.

I once had a male friend tell me he was an “expert” at removing bras. I had high hopes considering his history with women. After about two minutes of him bumbling around with both hands, I finally reached around with one hand and released the clasp. Now it is understandable that I would be considerably better at this than he would,  but being able to remove the bra is key to showing a woman that you have some competency when it comes to dealing with breasts. If you get off track this far in the game, good luck getting her hooked back in.

A normal bra is fastened in the back with two hooks, occasionally three. More complicated bras fasten in the front between the cups, this type can get tricky. The most common scenario is when you are facing each other and he has to reach around in a bear hug position, to remove the bra. I recommend always using two hands to avoid confusion and delay. Grasp as close to the clasp as possible to gain control, push the clasp together, lift the right side up and away from her body to release the death clasp.

For those who think of themselves as breast experts, try the one-handed technique.  Think of the snap action with your fingers: the middle finger and thumb hold the clasp then pushing with your thumb releases the clasp and frees the bra. This technique should not be used the first few times you hook-up.  She will be impressed if you can un-do her bra with two hands successfully rather than taking five minutes with one. And, since all bras are made the same, lefties may have to tweak this approach.

Now go practice and maybe you can master the bra removal.

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