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In this over-medicated age, drug companies continue expanding their empires into the farthest realms of human behavior, developing chemical cocktails for whatever ails us: if depressed take Prozac, if scatterbrained take Adderall, if sleepless take Ambien, if impotent take Viagra… Now researchers are searching for drugs that will help you stay in love.

Consider how people often attribute their inability to remain in a relationship to psychological reasons, saying such things as, “I’m not happy anymore,” or “the spark is gone.” In a sense, a lack of love is simply a chemical imbalance, which theoretically can be corrected. Someday soon drug companies may develop a prescription pill that helps you stay in love the same way Rogaine sustains hair. Read the rest of this entry »

“Putting on the sock” doesn’t refer to a condom or penis extension, but an age old foreplay technique. It begins with the woman on her back and the man kneeling before her with his penis placed at the entrance of her vagina. Instead of inserting his penis however, the man caresses her entrance, back and forth, in a circular motion. Don’t forget to involve the clitoris. The continuous stroking leaves her incredibly wet, and on the verge of a quivering orgasm. Just be careful to gauge her orgasmic pleasures, or she may be through before the man even gets invited inside for dessert! Read the rest of this entry »

The 28-year-old mixed martial arts fighter, War Machine, a.k.a. Jon Koppenhaver announced his official debut as porn star, War Machine XXX, on twitter last month. He was last seen in Tampa at the mixed martial arts event, XFC 9, where he defeated Mikey Gomez (fully clothed) via TKO in round three. Maybe his loss to David Mitchell at TPF 1 on Oct. 8, 2009 inspired him to start a new career doing what he loves most next to fighting: adult entertainment.

“I’m a full time Alpha Male. I get paid to fight and to fuck….what more could I ask for,” War Machine states in his twitter bio.

With a fight record of  10 wins and 3 losses after almost six years as professional fighter War Machine might just hang up his gloves for good. His career highlight was the win over Jared Rollins at TUF 6 Finale in Dec. 2007 immediately followed by his devastating loss to Yoshiyuki Yoshida at UFC 84 in May 2008.

Ever since, his MMA star has been falling while he floated around regional MMA events without leaving his mark or earning a title. As much as he claims to love fighting, he seems to lack the direction to take his career to the next level.

Watch the fight video of War Machine vs. Mikey Gomez at XFC 9 after the break.

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Sex should be fun, free, and feel good, but the reality is that it’s not always easy to get in the mood for sex.  Many things can cause a couple, or partner, to be turned off of sex. Here’s a quickie list of mood killers and tricks for recharging your sexual energy. Read the rest of this entry »

I had so much fun in Key West for Fantasy Fest it should be illegal (though I’m sure some of it was, or very damn close).  The boat ride on the Key West Express was well worth it. We got there in a fraction of the time and my friend Melissa and I got a head start on the festivities by sucking down White Russians and talking to Fantasy Fest veterans and fellow virgins. My favorite old pros were Bob and Rita who gave us a heads up on the freaky crazy fun of swinger groups who meet in Key West just to have sex with one another and go to kink parties. We quickly realized how true their anecdote was when we stepped off the boat and were promptly offered a free room by some NYC cops. Unfortunately they were a bit vague as to the terms of their offer.

The best word to describe what I saw in Key West is WOW!! I knew I was going to see some weird shit at Fantasy Fest but no amount of preparation or pictures can ready a person for the real thing: a celebration of parades, naked people, drunken stupors, and casual sex. Read the rest of this entry »

“Sex is always the answer. It’s never a question. And the answer is yes. Yes. YES!” –Nickelback.

Sex is a great answer to most every relationship problem, unless you’re with someone who’s never in the mood or uses sex as a punishment. So you had a fight. Nothing resolves the issue or rekindles your lust for one another like a passionate bout of makeup sex.  Doctors have long preached the health benefits of a good sex life–relieves stress, strengthens the heart, and improves breathing–but it’s also a great way to maintain a healthy relationship. Read the rest of this entry »

Steve Kornell with Democratic Committeewoman Linda Lucas at Shackleton's.

It was a mixed bag for gay voters last night. The vote to preserve marriage equality came up short in Maine, but great strides were made in local elections — including St. Petersburg’s City Council race.

Steve Kornell, one of the most impressive candidates in any local race this season, won his St. Pete council seat by a surprisingly large margin — 59.46% to 40.54% — over his opponent, Angela Rouson. He is the first openly gay person in the history of the city to be elected to public office. Like Kevin Beckner, the first openly gay Hillsborough County Commissioner, Kornell brought qualities to his candidacy that transcended issues of sexual orientation: strong community involvement, great campaign preparation, specific ideas and a sharp mind. His election, like Beckner’s, is a heartening sign of progress — even though St. Pete voters elected a new mayor who, like Rick Baker, refuses to march in gay pride parades. (Bill Foster was making sympathetic noises about domestic partnership benefits toward the end of his campaign, though, so there may be some hope there.)

Kornell was not the only LGBT candidate making history last night. Read the rest of this entry »

For real-time results in the vote on gay marriage in Maine, head to ProtectMaineEquality.org. If voters reject the amendment to repeal the state’s marriage equality law, it will mark the first time that the right to gay marriage is established by voters, not their elected representatives.

But the race is very close, as you’ll see from the website. A short while ago, with 22% of precincts reporting, the Bangor Daily News had the vote at 51% against the repeal to 49% in favor.

UPDATE 10:38PM

Portland numbers announced: A huge NO vote.

Commenters on site are thinking this will win it for No on 1, but most reports are showing the overall state tally at 50-50, and there are lots of votes still to be counted.

UPDATE Midnight

The tables have turned. MSNBC reports that with 69% of the votes counted, the tally has shifted to 52% Yes and 48% No.

To recap, a Yes vote is a vote to repeal marriage equality in Maine. There’s talk of a recount.

UPDATE: The morning after

It was a close battle, but Maine voters voted YES to reject the legalization of gay marriage.

Everyone has a secret.  Some may be juicy while others may be plain Jane, but simply put, everyone has something that no one else knows.

If you are reading my blogs you know a few of my secrets.   I blog mainly about my open marriage, my body, and my sex life. This isn’t really a secret to you, but the general population (i.e. most people close to me have no clue I do this).  It’s a big secret to me and I absolutely love having it. Read the rest of this entry »

Below are a few video clips from two of the fetish performances at Taboo 3, at The Castle in Ybor City. The first features local Tampa model Evelyn Rose acting out a medical fetish scene with an unruly patient. The second is a snippet of Idelsy in her revealing outfit.

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Social networking sites like Facebook have changed the face of modern dating, but this new technology isn’t without its flaws. We’ve all had a “friend” who has been caught flirting or cheating via illicit Facebook messages. One woman even discovered her marriage was over when her spouse spontaneously changed his relationship status to single. Below are a few awesomely hilarious examples of the various ways Facebook can f-up your dating life.

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When approaching any piece of media, it’s vital to engage the work on its own terms. What are the creators trying to accomplish? Do they have a specific audience in mind or message they’re trying to convey? How did they use the resources at their disposal?

So it would be unfair to judge the second Brady Bunch porn parody, Not The Brady’s XXX Marcia, Marcia, Marcia, on the quality of the acting, writing, or cinematography. It makes no claims to excellence or even competence in any of these areas (and a good thing, too). It’s a porn movie that parodies an already ridiculous, previously parodied TV show, The Brady Bunch. Its goals are to turn you on with hot, XXX sex and to make you laugh. Sadly, it doesn’t do a very good job at either. Read the rest of this entry »

Homosexuality has long been difficult to explain in terms of natural selection, as homosexuals reproduce at a lower frequency than their heterosexual counterparts. This would seemingly doom genes related to homosexuality to extinction. However, the fact that homosexuality exists in such a large variety of species suggests that it in some way offers an evolutionary advantage. Otherwise, genes that code for homosexuality would die off (off course this presupposes that you believe homosexuality is determined by nature as opposed to nurture). While homosexuality may not be entirely hereditary, evidence strongly suggests it is largely determined by genetics. Proof of this is the high rate of homosexuality in identical twins, at least for males. Read the rest of this entry »

A ‘dating’ lifestyle for a single dad can be fraught with many nightmarish consequences. For example, I cannot bring a woman home without being asked what happened to the last woman I dated. My kids usually ask for her by name. Nothing kills a mood quicker than mentioning another woman’s name to your current date—except maybe calling your current date by another woman’s name. Read the rest of this entry »

Women either love receiving oral sex or hate it; there’s no in-between. I don’t understand how you can hate something that can be so pleasurable, and sometimes, quite frankly, that will  give you the best orgasm you have ever had. Self-conscious thoughts should be thrown out the window ladies because the smell, taste, or sight won’t be enough to make him stop if he knows you are getting pleasure from him. Unless of course you really need to take care of the aforementioned items discussed in my post, 5 turn-offs for him.

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Internet dating has fast become a popular way to meet people. There are sites for every type of relationship: singles, couples, swingers, cheaters, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and friends. However, the universe of the internet continues to expand, delving into ever more specific niches. Here are some samples of the hyper specific dating sites I’ve come across.

My favorite site so far is Cougarlife.  I’m not quite a cougar (I’m 37), but I do fancy a younger 20-something man, and would be happy to join this site!

For those who have a very particular fetish, you may find a potential partner in Extreme Restraints Dating, where members are encouraged to explore their hidden fantasies.  I poked around this site (its free!) and discovered there are some real hotties with fetishes I’ve never even imagined! Read the rest of this entry »

Sex toys used to be thought of as kinky, perverted, and taboo, but things have changed. When I first got married I thought I’d never need to masturbate or use a vibrator. This was in the mid 80’s when you couldn’t anonymously shop for sex toys online. Now it’s easier than ever to search for all kinds of sexual aids without having to brave a visit to a “Dirty Book Store.” If you’re new to the world of sex toys, here’s a top ten list of a few of my favorites.

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“Oh yeah, oh yeah… omigod, I’m so close. I wish I had some beer, but I wanna come. Ooo, I want a burrito. Why can’t I come?!”

Sound familiar? An Australian study has found that men who smoke marijuana on a regular basis are four times more likely to have difficulty reaching orgasm than men who don’t smoke. The same study also discovered that potheads experience premature ejaculation at three times the rate of non-smokers. What gives? Read the rest of this entry »

Halloween came early Saturday at The Castle with Taboo 3. If you couldn’t make it, check out the photo gallery below for a taste of what you missed. Performances by Angela Ryan, Idelsy, Oni & Jody, Evelyn Rose, Victoria Sapphire, Aerial Eye Burlesque, Curse Mackey, DJ Tom Gold, DJ Sean, DJ Nemesis, and DJ Rob Givens. Nude body painting, fetish vendors, the Senator wearing a rubber condom, a naked desser bar, and some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet.

Photos by Shannon Adams.

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The Amazon begins with the man lying on his back with both feet in the air, legs curled towards his abdomen and spread comfortably. The woman then squats over the man, pushing his legs forward, curling him backward, so that she can straddle his hamstrings and achieve penetration at the same time.

Any recommendations on getting either in or out of this position?
Your parts aren’t going to match up nice and neat as in most Kama Sutra positions. The man is going to need to angle his member forward towards his testicles, which can be easier for some than for others! Read the rest of this entry »

A recent article, “How Men Select Women,” sums up the science of what men look for in female mates. I’ve synthesized the information down to a blog-sized bite. Please note that these finding are based on averages, and that a wide variety exists on each side of every claim. Averages simply give us a language for talking about attraction. If you find you don’t match all of these criteria, which is pretty much everyone, rest assured there are many people who will have a thing for your differences.

High reproductive value: Men are attracted to younger women who have more fertile years ahead of them, or a high “reproductive value.” Read the rest of this entry »

With Halloween approaching faster than an ADD kid jacked up on Snickers, much ado has been made about the sexification of female Halloween costumes. While some women feel that Halloween is the one day they can wear provocative outfits in public without being called sluts, others feel this trend increasingly objectifies women. I don’t know who’s right,  but I do know I have no problem with the sexification of male costumes. Read the rest of this entry »

Eye candy rubbed elbows with intellectual stimulation last weekend at Madame X, a dimly-lit bar in Greenwich Village. I’ve seen many burlesque shows since I moved to Manhattan, but none as thrilling as this performance by Naked Girls Reading. Lead by burlesque star and NGR creator, Michelle L’amour, the performance featured beautiful, nude women reading selections from banned books.

Doesn’t sound sexy? You’re crazy! But perhaps this clip and some photos* from the show will change your mind… Read the rest of this entry »

Men are notoriously self-centered in bed, but this stereotype is beginning to shift—we’re simply a decade or so behind the women. For instance, while it’s considered a faux pas for women to have pubic hair, men are now expected to at least trim their unruly lions’ manes. In a large part this change has been driven by beauty product companies looking to cash in on a half of the market that has long been ignored. Read the rest of this entry »

After some serious thought and input from a few close male friends, I formed this list of five common turn-offs for men. Disclaimer: this is not the TOP five, but merely five things women do or possess that are complete and utter turn-offs. I also suggest that female readers ask your well-kept and clean male friends their opinion on if you can check yourself off this list.

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All swingers have their own rules. Rules are what make swinging doable (pun intended).  Soccer Dad and I have gone somewhat past the basic swinger lifestyle and have dabbled a bit in an open marriage.  You might wonder how this is different.  We are having sex with others, isn’t that open?  It’s actually not.  Typically swingers share their experiences together.  That might mean sharing one bed with another couple and swapping, or having drinks and dinner with a couple and then following up with sex in the same room.  Sometimes couples, myself included, venture to separate rooms for sex. So, where do solo events fit into these scenarios? Read the rest of this entry »

At dinner the other night, a friend revealed her recent drunken sexual debauchery, which involved a certain dairy product usually reserved for cereal. There were four of us in attendance, myself, the debaucherist and my good friends, “the twins” (actual people who are twins… not my breasts). We are a fairly close group and it’s safe to say that we have a “no limits” policy when it comes to sharing. So, when it came to this kinky topic, we listened intently.

It should be known that the debaucherist suffers from a bit of a problem: she lacks the ability to choose her partner. She is a VERY attractive girl from South Africa, but she isn’t very personable. Many men have asked me why she is, “cold and distant.” I don’t have an answer. Maybe she just looks too hard. Either way, this causes her to make more than a few poor choices. Read the rest of this entry »

On many occasions I can be caught mumbling, “Man, I wish I was a guy.” This is accurate on most accounts. It sucks bleeding every month for days on end. Having a kid come out of your lower body looks pretty shitty. And, general upkeep is far more annoying.

But, when it comes to sex, I am MORE than happy to be a female. Read the rest of this entry »

An inquisitive reader emailed me asking my opinion on retro-sexing, ex-sex, & re-fucking an old flame. Read the rest of this entry »

My company recently sent me to attend a three-day work conference. I won’t elaborate as to which city hosted the conference as I’d hate to incriminate this fine town for its legal and moral shortcomings. Suffice it to say, the city boasts casinos, and prostitution is against the law… I think.

As I sat in front of my video poker machine, feeding it crisp twenty dollar bills with regularity and relishing in the fact that bourbon was free, I was eventually accosted by two young ladies and a gentleman. It was late at night (i.e., early in the morning) and it clearly seemed at first glance, even in my somewhat intoxicated state, that these two women could be “ladies of the evening.” They featured many characteristics often associated with the common call girl: short skirt, low-cut shirt, knee-high boots, heavy make-up, doused in perfume, toting a small purse, chewing bubble gum…

Aside from the fact that I was suddenly being solicited by two call girls in a country where prostitution is still illegal, there was something else askew with this picture. What was up with the guy they were with? He couldn’t be their pimp, could he? Read the rest of this entry »

Sat. Oct 24. Taboo 3. A Masquerade ball with a sexy fetish edge. World famous fetish performers, silk aerial & trapeze acts, burlesque troop, vendors, open play dungeon equipment, and naked dessert bars. Appearances by Angela Ryan, Oni & Jody, Idelsy, GoCatGo Burlesque, Aerial Eye Candy, Evelyn Rose, Victoria Sapphire and more. Music by DJ Tom Gold, DJ Sean, DJ Curse Mackey, DJ Nemesis, and DJ Rob Givens. The Castle 2004 N. 16th St. Ybor 33605.

Fri and Sat. Oct. 23 – 24. Shibari and Bondage Weekend. The Quest. 12517 66th St. N. Largo, FL 33773.

Sat. Oct 31. Fetish Factory’s Halloween Fetish Ball. Purgatory Nightclub.  1000 State Road 84 City, Fort Lauderdale, FL Zip. 33315. Read the rest of this entry »

I don’t know how many of you are aware of the week long debauchery party that takes place in Key West every year: AKA Fantasy Fest. This year they’re celebrating 30 years of parades, painted naked people, drunken stupors, and casual sex. Fantasy Fest originated as a way to bring tourists to Key West in the off season. What better way to bring people to an island during hurricane season than to entice them with a giant Halloween street party with alcohol and painted naked people. I’m looking forward to the painted naked people the most. What can I say, I can see people in drunken stupors in downtown St. Pete, have causal sex on a Tuesday night at home, and see a parade at the drop of a dime in Tampa, but there’s not too many places I can see painted naked people first hand.

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Angela Ryan, one of many nation fetish acts performing at Taboo 3 this Saturday, describes her adventures in the world of alternative modeling.

Creative Loafing: How did you become a Fetish/pinup model and a burlesque performer?

Angela Ryan: I modeled a little professionally as a child and my mother constantly had a camera in my face. After I got through those gawky teenage years I picked it back up. When I was 20 I was asked by a friend who was a photographer to model for him. It sparked an interest in me since I was so familiar with posing as a child. I decided to pursue it further and was approached by photographers all over the country to work with them. I started doing burlesque to further my creative outlets. I ended up quitting my retail and cocktailing jobs to travel. I have been modeling and performing full time ever since. It started out as just fun but I have been lucky enough to make a career out of it! Read the rest of this entry »

Dear Stalkers:

Since I started writing this blog, I‘ve come to accept that some of you out there in internet-land aren’t entirely normal.  You seem to think that because I write about my sexual encounters with new acquaintances at swingers parties that I will be wooed by your sexual requests via Facebook as a kind of gratitude for friending me or reading my blogs.  While relentless persistence may be a virtue in ebay bid wars, or role playing games, it does little to impress women online. My silence in response to your creepy requests is not because my computer crashed, or your message did not go through. My lack of a response doesn’t mean I am waiting for you to ask me ten more times to send me single sentences messages, requesting nude photos of me. Even when I directly say NO, still you persevere. If only you applied the same kind of will power to self improvement, you wouldn’t have to stalk people online to simulate real life sexual encounters. Read the rest of this entry »

First, Twilight fans were given The Vamp, a pale, sparkly dildo which, according to the website, retains temperature so you can “toss it in the fridge for that authentic experience.”

Naturally, the next step was to turn the teenage melodrama into a porno flick. Given the abundance of XXX parodies released this year, it’s hardly surprising that the insanely popular vampire love story had a go.

This Isn’t Twlight: The XXX Parody was released this weekend. Since a 48-hour digital rental at AEBN.net is only $7.95, a couple girlfriends and I decided to give it a try. It would be good for a laugh, if nothing else. Read the rest of this entry »