Daily Loaf

Swingers are secretive.  Most tend to keep their lifestyle and identity private to avoid a myriad of potential problems.  Who wants their boss or even their mother to know they have sex with multiple partners?  (Except my boss at CL… he thinks I’m cool).  We tend to be evasive when it comes to where we go, how we meet people, and who we hang around.

Since being in the lifestyle, I am constantly amazed at who I run into at local swingers club, on swinger websites, and at swinger house parties.  At first I feel like hiding, or just leaving, but the fact is that you both are there doing the same thing.  Still, you can’t help but wonder how you didn’t notice that Mr. and Mrs. Smith from over yonder are swingers. How did I miss the cues?  I don’t remember them offering the secret handshake or wearing our club’s secret symbol. Read the rest of this entry »

Since losing my job in December, the husband and I have been making decisions concerning our “wants vs. needs.” Unfortunately, my husband categorizes my pedicures as “wants.” I beg to differ. Granted, I have survived since early December by doing my own pedicures, this task is performed with much difficulty and frustration. I’m not one of those girls whose an artist when it comes to painting toenails, or fingernails for that matter. I get nail polish everywhere else on my digits except where it should be. And don’t get me started on the hot mess that is red nail polish, after which  my feet resemble an angry Jackson Pollock painting. Not only do I lack accuracy in painting nails, but for me to properly treat my feet, I have to bend my body into some seriously sadistic contortions, from which I’m often unsure if I’ll need 911 assistance to get out of. Read the rest of this entry »

As Valentine’s Day creeps around the corner, men and women are desperately browsing their partner’s favorite websites to find the perfect gift for the big V-day. While I was standing in the greeting card aisle, I got to thinking. Is it acceptable to keep gifts from your ex? By answering a few simple questions, you will know the proper ex-gift etiquette. Read the rest of this entry »

It’s Valentine’s Day again and you’re wondering what you can do with your honey.  Chocolates and flowers are good, but you want to do something different.  Break out the point-and-shoot and take some nude photos!

I am not talking about sexting… no standing in front of the mirror to iPhone camera your junk.  This is about capturing some artistic nude photos of each other.  You may have thought about asking your lover to try it, but were afraid he or she would object.  You’d be surprised how many people appreciate nude photos of themselves if they are tasteful and private.  Most people just want some assurance that the photos will be anonymous (no faces) and to know what they will be used for.  Trust is everything if you’re going to photograph anyone naked!

Is your valentine not magazine-cover material?  That’s even better!  Learn to take flattering and sexy pictures showing his or her best qualities.  Capture curves and sexy spots instead of pooches and imperfections.  Here is how to do it:

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While none of the banned Super Bowl XLIV TV ads featured sex with vegetables like last year’s notorious PETA ad, two of the commercials prohibited in 2010 featured homosexual-themed content, which still apparently doesn’t mix with football. The below videos are safe for work, unless you work for CBS, in which case you may be fired for watching two men make out. Read the rest of this entry »

We’ve all heard of 69′, but if you really want to test your physical skill you should try 70′. This is the ultimate in mutual satisfying oral sex. The man begins on his knees. The woman starts with her legs wrapped around his neck. Once this position is reached, the man carefully stands up, balancing her while she hangs upside down.The man now bends his knees slowly until she can reach the floor and support part of her body weight. She then arches back, extending her neck until she is able to place his manhood in her mouth. The man then gets to work on her womanhood, which should be conveniently in front of him. She will need both strength and dexterity, while the man only needs strength. Read the rest of this entry »

It’s almost upon us again, the dreaded Hallmark holiday. Every year we watch the revenue of thousands of florists, jewelers, and greeting card stores spike like crazy on February 14th. And don’t even think about trying to find a restaurant for dinner unless you made reservations months in advance.

I am personally boycotting Valentine’s Day this year. Not only do we lack a substantial stream of cash for frivolous, feckless gifts (see unemployed reference above), but shouldn’t we already be expressing our love ALL year long? Read the rest of this entry »

Budding relationships are delicate and must be treated with care. As your relationship progresses, the bond grows stronger and it takes a lot more than “I’m just not that into you,” to end it. Some call the ultimate bond marriage, which can be shaken, but only broken about half the time. However, as strong as these bonds are, a few of my close friends recently demonstrated two surefire ways to end a relationship, whether you intend to or not.  Read the rest of this entry »

Single women beware! If you date multiple men at once, and have a preference for Xmas lights, concerned St. Pete neighbors may accuse you of being a hooker.

That’s exactly what happened to me when a tenant in my apartment complex reported “a lot of traffic” through my place and a red porch light to my landlord as evidence that I’m operating a brothel. Nice, a leftover Xmas light and a “suspiciously active” social life suddenly make me a hooker. What is this, 1693? Am I going to be fried at the stake after being repeatedly violated by righteous accusers interested in saving my soul? Or maybe I’ll have a Scarlet A branded on my chest, like a sign advertising some guilt-free groping by morally superior neighbors. Read the rest of this entry »

While a live news crew interviewed an Australian banker about recent interest rate changes, an unsuspecting coworker was caught flipping between spreadsheets and a naked photo shoot of Victoria Secret model Miranda Kerr for GQ. While the pictures are safe for work, at least for work spaces where it’s permissible to flip through fashion and style magazines, the live feed is priceless. The banker seems to be hiding his internet inquiry when a fellow co-worker approaches to chat. Wait for the “Oh shit!” moment when he turns, sees the camera, and realizes his scavenger hunt for nude photos has been captured on live TV.

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A recent study by the Austrian Medical University of Graz found that sun exposure boosts testosterone levels in men.

Sunlight is responsible for 90% of the body’s supply of Vitamin D, which can be absorbed in smaller amounts through vitamins, meat, and oily fish. Graz researchers discovered that as Vitamin D increases, so does testosterone.

Testosterone is the primary sex hormone for males, appearing in men at forty to sixty times the rate that it does in females. It controls a number of functions in men’s health, including muscle growth, bone density, linear growth, the development of secondary sex characteristics, mental and physical energy, libido, and erectile function. Read the rest of this entry »

Day after day my vagina is tortured by the fact that it belongs to a 30-something woman.  I am that 30-something woman in the midst of my sexual peak, which my vagina constantly reminds me about—like at this very moment.

My vagina is an innie so  I don’t really need to protect my precious lips or extruding labia.  I can go commando in my favorite tight jeans and it doesn’t bother me in the least (except that friction thing. Oyvey!).  Going without panties is a liberating experience.  As silly as that sounds I feel profoundly sexy without panties.  Not even the sexiest, lacy, frilly panties give me that feeling.  Panties make my vagina frown. Read the rest of this entry »

After you’ve supercharged your confidence, or at least learned to fake it, and you’ve abolished all fear of rejection, it’s time to master the subtle art of libido-control. And don’t worry, no harnesses, duct tape, or sharp implements are required.

To women, desperation reeks like the cheap cologne of high school boys at prom hiding perma-boners in unsuspecting asses. True, men who are unafraid to look like fools, to hit on anything with a pulse, may rack up impressive sex numbers, but they also collect a great many morning-after stories about the creatures they find lurking in their beds. It’s important to keep your sexual goals in mind. If you’re the type of fella who gets so blackout drunk that you can block out the mongrel faces of late night decisions, then, by all means, cast a wide net. But, if you’re looking for a more meaningful connection, or perhaps someone who is above your standards rather than below, a little dick control can go a long way. Read the rest of this entry »

“It felt so wrong / It felt so right / Don’t mean I’m in love tonight/ I kissed a girl and I liked it / I liked it …”

Girls like me.

I mean, they like me, like me.

It’s an awkward thing to admit, and you have to understand, I’m not a conceited person. I don’t actually think all girls like me, but I have been hit on by so many of my lipgloss wearing amigas that one day it just occurred to me – chicks kinda dig me. Read the rest of this entry »

The man lies on his back with his legs together and straight out in front while the woman straddles him. The woman leans back until she is lying on top of his legs. To ease the strain on her knees, she may stretch her legs out on either side of the man’s shoulders.

This position can also be performed with the woman leaning back on the man’s chest, both facing the same direction with feet out front. This allows easier access to her breasts, but both allow for clitoral stimulation by both his and her hand.

On a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate this position? 3… Every so often we come across a dud that just doesn’t seem to be salvageable by any means beyond an electric drill dildo! Read the rest of this entry »

New data from the federally funded Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, compiled by the Guttmacher Institute, reveals that pregnancies for 15 to 19-year-olds rose 3 percent between 2005-2006—the first increase in teen pregnancies in over a decade. Teens are now getting pregnant at higher rates than before the 1990s.

As reported by The Washington Post:

The abortion rate among teenagers rose 1 percent in 2006 from the previous year — to 19.3 abortions per 1,000 women in that age group. Taking that and miscarriages into account… the pregnancy rate among U.S. women younger than 20 in 2006 was 71.5 per 1,000 women, a 3 percent increase from the rate of 69.5 in 2005. That translated into 743,000 pregnancies among teenagers, or about 7 percent of women in this age group. Read the rest of this entry »

Originally reported by californiaprogressreport.com, eHarmony settled a three-year lawsuit by agreeing to allow same-sex couples on the site, sort of. eHarmony will also pay over half a million in retributions, to be split by 130 California plaintiffs.

eHarmony maintains that it did nothing wrong by limiting its dating site to straight singles. However, it will now cater to homosexual singles, offering a direct link and promotion of its sub-site, Compatible Partners–a site originally constructed to satisfy a similar legal battle in New Jersey. Like its straight counterpart, Compatible Partners bills itself as a place for finding serious relationships. Read the rest of this entry »

On the radio this morning, 97X attempted to broach the long running feud between nudists and swingers at Caliente (a clothing optional resort).  Although Fisher and Seth were only able to pull in one caller who would talk about her nudist parents and grandparents, the issue is an ongoing issue for many in the nudist community.   I was sad to see it get so little attention.  The debate began this time as a hot issue at Tuesday’s Pasco County Commission meeting.  It’s the same story that has been contemplated and argued for the last two years, the nudist are unhappy with the swingers.

Swinger groups host parties at Caliente on a regular basis.  The parties are normally sexy in nature and tend to be quite popular within the swinger community.  As local code enforcers have pushed swingers out of club after club, many lifestyle parties have moved to nudist resorts, but swingers have been frequenting nudist resorts for years.  The fact that regular parties are now being hosted in establishments such as Caliente is only a result of the swinger lifestyle becoming more prominent and somewhat more accepted. It’s also a consequence of places like Caliente trying to broaden their consumer base. Read the rest of this entry »

Each year the notorious pirate ship, The Jose Gasparilla, is received into Tampa Bay by fleets of boaters and land lovers who go bat-shit crazy over beads, booty, brawls and booze. Overthrowing local laws, the mythic pirate, Jose Gaspar, inspires what looks to  some like a riot. To others, this pirate festival is a vicious cocktail of events: a massive tailgate without a game, a pirate costume party, and a Mardi Gras festival during the day. Whether you want to join or dodge the madness that is Gasparilla, here’s what you’ll need to know to survive (and after the break, watch video, brawls and all, of the 2008 fest).

When and where: The pirate invasion and parade (featuring over 90 floats, 14 bands, and 50 pirate Krewes) will be Saturday, January 30, 2010 from 2 p.m. to 5:30 p.m.. The 3.5-mile parade route along Bayshore Blvd crosses the river on Brorein St., heads north on Ashley Dr., and spills into the free concert stage at the renovated Curtis Hixon Park.

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Rumors of a sex tape of John Edwards and mistress Rielle Hunter have resurfaced with the pending release of a tell-all book, The Politician, by Edwards’ former aide, Andrew Young.

You may remember Young as the loyal aide who helped facilitate and conceal Edwards’ and Hunter’s affair, even claiming to be the father of Edwards’ lovechild, Frances Quinn, age 2. Young says he accidentally discovered the DVD in 2007 while going through a stack of Hunter’s unmarked DVDs. Why would Young have access to Hunter’s house and personal possessions?  Because Young moved Hunter into his house with his wife and children — though this surely had nothing to do with making it easier for Edwards to cheat.

Hunter was originally hired to make videos for Edwards’ presidential campaign, and that she did. As a professional videographer and editor, she must have hundreds of unmarked and random DVDs scattered about her work space. For Young to accidentally happen upon the one unmarked DVD among hundreds  that contained a sex tape seems a bit suspect. Read the rest of this entry »

There must be something in the XY chromosome that drives men to obsess over things like big screens, La-Z-Boys, sports, cars, trucks… (insert random obsession here). I’m sure this compulsion doesn’t affect ALL men, and there are definitely some outliers, but after being with my husband for almost nine years, I’ve noticed a disturbing purchase pattern start to emerge.

It all started right after our wedding… During the madness of planning our ceremony, my future husband tactfully informed me that he was interested in purchasing a projection TV. Being absolutely crazy with wedding plans and errands, I dismissed this with a wave of the hand. “Yeah, yeah, whatever. Let’s just get through this wedding chaos and you can get one afterward.” Under no circumstance will I ever again just brush off one of my husband’s ideas when it involves buying something like this, because now I know what will happen. Read the rest of this entry »

The man hug: This type of hug comes in many forms.  The approach shows just how much affection he’s willing to offer.

The pat: Some men lean in with their left arm around your shoulder while their right pats your upper back three times.  Too many pats could mean he’s signaling you for some foreplay. Too few means he’d rather be hugging his sister. As opposed to the full body hug,  all lower man parts stay a respectful foot away, possibly to hide an awkward boner. In either case, if he gives you the shoulder pat, his performance in bed is probably just as tame.

The full body: This hug, involving the body touching from chest to knee,  is a clear sign of genuine affection.  Typically this isn’t left for a quick hello or good-bye hug, but when some type of feelings (love, lust, or like) are involved.  Whether you want it or not, anticipate more body contact from this person in the near future. Read the rest of this entry »

Roost*er*lol*li*pop: adjective

1. A polite way to call someone a cocksucker with out them realizing it until after you’ve walked way.

2. A delicious South American treat made from chili powder and cocaine. Read the rest of this entry »

Sometimes I wonder about people. Even myself. I’m the type of woman, where, if I want to have sex, I’ll have sex. When I was younger I’d go out and pick up the first sexy man I saw who I thought would be a good lay. Now I can just get online and have someone over in a matter of minutes. But, in the 17 years I’ve spent picking up men, not once has one stolen from me, that is until I met Javon a few nights ago online.

Javon was young, sexy and raring to go—3 of my most basic requirements. Once he sent me a picture of his gigantic cock, I told him to come over. Read the rest of this entry »

In Japan, a new subculture has developed of men carrying on romantic relationships with pillow girlfriends. As reported in a recent New York Times article, these “2-D lovers,” are a subgroup of “otaku”: the obsessive fanaticism around anime, hentai (a cross between anime and role playing video games), manga (Japanese comic-books,) and video games. These 2-D girlfriends usually come in the form of pillowcases featuring anime depictions of pubescent girls in erotic poses. And just like the range of pictures on the pillows, from innocent to pornographic, these human 2-D lovers come in a wide variety. Some merely like to sleep surrounded by several pillow girls. One man boasts as many as 150 pillow covers at home. Others are monogamous with specific characters, treating their pillow people like true girlfriends, taking them to dates and dinner. In general, these men know these pillow lovers aren’t real people, however, they feel that their romantic love for these 2-D girls is tangible. Read the rest of this entry »

The U.S. can’t even pass a minimal universal health care plan. Meanwhile, according to an article by The Washington Post, Cuba is sponsoring federally funded sex changes.

Perhaps this is one benefit to a dictatorship; controversial social programs can be passed relatively quickly, provided that some high-up is a strong proponent of the programs you support. Luckily for the LGBT community in Cuba, they have President Raul Castro’s daughter, Mariela Castro.  Mariela is a sexologist and gay-rights advocate who runs the Center for Sex Education. Read the rest of this entry »

Most every heterosexual American male has fantasized about Princess Leia in that metal bikini from Return of the Jedi. We weren’t quite sure what the morbidly obese space slug, Jabba the Hutt, needed with a woman in a bikini as a slave. But, we had waited through the first two movies just to see Leia in anything less than a white sheet, and we weren’t about to ask questions when presented with this stunning visual, which  rivaled all of the revolutionary special effects.

While Star Wars continues to be popular enough to  draw convention centers worth of people dressed as characters from the films, this franchise had yet to reach the realm of hyper sexualized female characters in anime/hentai, comic books, and video games, all of which host conventions almost strictly dedicated to these  fantasy foxes. Why? Probably because the films make it seem as if Princess Leia and Princess Amidala are the only hotties in the entire galaxy. Read the rest of this entry »

“I was in Girls Gone Wild,” says a grinning 18-year-old blonde who goes by the stage name Star. She leans on the bar in a sheer top with a bright bikini beneath, taking drags from her Virginia Slim.

I didn’t know what to expect when I strayed from the usual bars in downtown St. Pete, to the 300 block of 1st Ave. N., but it wasn’t this. Club Sinn stands just passed the old Kelly Hotel, and the Dianetics and Scientology Life Improvement Center in a retail space that looks like a mix between a pool hall and a tattoo parlor. Red x-mas lights line tinted windows, which feature vibrant animations of pool balls and a smiling devil face. A heavy beat pulses through the cloaked entrance, emitting flashes of smoky red light.

Star adjusts her high heels, which she’s still getting used to, and tells me about her marriage at 16 and her recent divorce. When asked about her future, she’s uncertain and optimistic, as any 18-year-old.

“I’d like to be in Playboy. I just need to save up to get a pair of these,” she says grabbing her chest.

Star embodies the innocence and experience that went into creating Club Sinn; this young beauty is stepping optimistically into an industry that can be both unforgiving and highly profitable. Read the rest of this entry »

1.  Stupid tattoos:  I’m a huge fan of tattoos, and actually have a few myself, but if you have a green alien tattooed on your chest or a bar code on your neck, you might as well get another one that reads “Don’t bother having sex with this idiot.”

2.  A sweater of chest hair:  Your suit of body hair doesn’t make you like a cuddly teddy bear. When a woman says this to you, what she’s really saying is, “I in no way find you sexually attractive but I don’t want to hurt your feelings so I’ll compare you to something cute, and nonsexual.” If your chest hair has spread to your back, it’s time to visit the waxer. Stop crying about how much of a hassle waxing is. At least you have something that can be fixed with relative ease.    Read the rest of this entry »

I’ve never been a big fan of YouTube; you have to weed through a whole lot of junk to find anything of merit. Well, that’s the way I felt until last week, when a friend of mine saw this link and thought of me and my blog.

Now, before you watch the video I have to give you a quick re-cap on just how cool I thought I was back in the 18-to-23-year-old range. Clubbing (Stormins or Ybor) every weekend, car shows, driving through neighborhoods at 3 a.m. with the system up, and you know it had to be Snoop or Biggie Smalls, Crutchfield, bumpers in my hatchback, rims, draulics, black and milds–oh yeah baby, I was living my suburban version of the thug life.

Flash-forward to the present, when “kids” are driving through my neighborhood with their systems up and I’m silently reciting the non-emergency police phone number in my head and counting to ten while peeking through the blinds. Read the rest of this entry »

I can’t help it, I like to tell people I’m a sex blogger. I’m proud of what I do. I like the attention. I get a lot of weird looks, crazy stares and personal questions–the most popular of which is: “Exactly how much sex do you have?”  Here’s my answer…

Paloma Sex Goddess

Sex Goddess by: Maggie Estep

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Let’s face it, when your partner physically changes throughout the course of your relationship, it can be positive or negative. Here, I’d like to focus on negative changes, the most familiar of which being weight gain.

It’s common for a couple that is comfortable in their relationship to become lax in their exercising and dieting, but occasionally it gets to a point where sexual attraction fades. This often is the beginning of the end for a relationship. It’s hard to tell your partner about their extra lbs., but here are a few helpful techniques that make the process as painless as possible.

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The Tampa Breeze should be renamed the Hurricanes after Friday night’s demolition of The New York Majesty with their air and land assaults.

Whether you came to the The St. Pete Times Forum to watch the sexy celebration dances of women with uniform spray-on tans and six-pack bodies packed into impossibly tight lingerie, or just to see our girls pound some New Yorkers, The Breeze delivered. Forget all that sissy hair pulling, scratching, and slapping schoolyard shit. These bikini clad athletes were out for internal bleeding, slamming into each other, slinging players backwards across the field, causing long turf burns on exposed thighs and at least one concussion. Read the rest of this entry »

I’ve received a number of emails from readers seeking advice on sex and the swinging lifestyle.  Here are a few that represent pretty common problems.

Mr. X: I have been married for seven years and wife was a virgin when we got married.  She was never a particularly sexual person and I am the complete opposite.  I was an occasional swinger pre-marriage.  I felt sexual energy running rampant in all aspects of my life.  I adore my wife but plainly stated she is an awful kisser, gives terrible blowjobs, and simply is no fun in bed.  You can’t say that to her and she doesn’t have the instinctual I want to experiement and get better at this gene that likely you and I have.  What can I do to make our time together better without hurting her feelings? Read the rest of this entry »

Details just published an exclusive interview with America’s first legal male prostitute, a 25 year-old ex-marine performing under the name “Markus.”

Markus prefers the term “surrogate lover” to prostitute, as he wants to provide a service far beyond the physical act of sex. He believes his decision is a major stepping stone for civil rights in America. He even compares his decision to stand up for men across the country who want to sell their bodies, to Rosa Parks refusing to give up her seat.

“This actually isn’t about selling my body,” Markus told Details. “This is about changing social norms.” Read the rest of this entry »