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Cheating: to practice fraud or deceit; or informally to be sexually unfaithful.

Although this definition seems clear-cut, what constitutes cheating in a relationship is often ambiguous. For some, cheating includes intercourse but not oral sex. Some count French kissing but not closed mouth kisses. But what about holding hands or snuggling — physical acts that are more associated with emotional connections than physical acts of passion? To take it a step further, can you cheat without physically touching someone else? Is fantasizing about someone else during sex cheating? What about flirting online? Believe it or not, Wikipedia actually has a page for this subject, describing it as an affair of the heart. Read the rest of this entry »

Women either love receiving oral sex or hate it; there’s no in-between. I don’t understand how you can hate something that can be so pleasurable, and sometimes, quite frankly, that will  give you the best orgasm you have ever had. Self-conscious thoughts should be thrown out the window ladies because the smell, taste, or sight won’t be enough to make him stop if he knows you are getting pleasure from him. Unless of course you really need to take care of the aforementioned items discussed in my post, 5 turn-offs for him.

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Former Tampa resident Tom Kelly details his journey into the swinger world as a single male in Would you like to sleep with my wife. Kelly’s adventure begins after leaving an unhappy relationship with a  fanatic girlfriend in attempt to quell his desire to be constantly surrounded by naked women.  This ultimately leads him to a management position at a nudist resort frequented by swingers. Kelly finds himself both admiring the natural beauty of women and discovering a new lease on a taboo lifestyle.  Guests find Kelly’s helpful nature and outgoing personality to be more of a sign of suggestive behavior than typical customer service. This leads him to receive propositions of sex and the opportunity of new sexual exploration. Read the rest of this entry »

Living the swinger lifestyle offers the opportunity of having sex with many different strangers.  I don’t really know all of the people I have sex with, but normally I have talked and spent some time with them before engaging in any sexual play.  But, even with this excitement I still fantasize about riskier sex scenarios.

In the dressing room/closet: I have always wanted to have sex in a department store dressing room or a random storage closet with a total stranger.  The thought of meeting a beautiful stranger and having erotic sex after locking eyes gets me hot and bothered.  This must be a fantasy many of you have too. Read the rest of this entry »

As I was driving to work Monday, Fisher and Boy from the 97X morning show played a creepy voicemail from a dude attempting to get a date.  The bit was about a woman who was approached by a  guy who asked her out. She wasn’t interested and was only able to get rid of him by giving him her business card.  Probably a dumb move, but I sympathize. The guy called her two times leaving two very long, creepy messages.  Some men just can’t imagine why any female wouldn’t want to date or sleep with them. This made me consider all the creepy ways men have tried to weasel their way into my life, or at least my vagina. Read the rest of this entry »

I occasionally receive sex questions to answer on my blog. This recent question and its accompanying answer struck me as something I should share with a wider audience:

I can’t believe I’m actually asking this, but I’m kind of desperate. I am dating a guy who is uncircumcised and I’ve never been with an uncut guy before… I have no idea what to do with it. To be honest, I think it looks kinda gross, but I really like him so I want to learn how to work with it and pleasure him. How do I do that? Read the rest of this entry »

German company First Androids has created the ultimate sex doll. According to the latest issue of  H+ magazine, these sex droids “can hold multiple sex positions, be ordered to simulate breathing, perform oral sex acts, have a pulse, be equipped with a g-spot that responds to orgasm, and much, much more.” It’s the future, folks!

Before I go on, let’s look at some photos: Read the rest of this entry »

I love to masturbate! Everyone masturbates, well, except for weirdos, old people, and those who haven’t tried it.  I’ll admit that I was in my late 20s before I discovered the beauty of self pleasure.  Since then I turned into a closet masturbator.  No, this doesn’t mean that I pretend that I don’t; it simply means I masturbate in the closet.   This may seem rather strange to you, but it makes perfect sense to me.  I get home a bit earlier than expected and the house is empty, but for how long is unknown.  I need some me time and I don’t want to get caught.  Thus, closet masturbation is born. Read the rest of this entry »

On several occasions I’ve been asked how many sex partners I’ve had. Having lived as a swinger for several years, I’ve probably had more than most, but the exact number is tricky. It depends on what you count as a sex partner. For me, I can only define what one is, by describing what a sex partner is not.

Oral sex only: Some swingers have rules, like soft swap only.  This means I only have oral sex with the other man then have actual sex with my husband. For me, oral sex doesn’t count as sex. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m a frequent reader of secret blog sites.  I love knowing what other people are hiding, the secrets dieing to be told, and professing my own secrets from time to time.  I came across a particular secret, or maybe better described as a desire on a site called cavecanum.  The author suggested that there should be a symbol for finding someone willing to engage in oral sex with a stranger, kind of like the handkerchief code for gay men. The writer of secret #80903 says Read the rest of this entry »

At work, driving home, or alone at my computer–I need sex! I’m a 30 something swinger who must find creative ways to deal with her constant urges. I’ve heard stories of coworkers ducking away to the bathroom in pairs or having sex on their office desk after hours. Masturbating in the bathroom and sex at work aren’t something I’m into, but if that’s your thing, my only advice is don’t get caught. Read the rest of this entry »

In Sharlene Azam’s new book and documentary, Oral Sex Is The New Goodnight Kiss, Azam uncovers the rise of teen prostitution in suburban areas. Azam interviews white high school girls, 13 to 15, who are having sex with as many as 7 men a night. Some are even selling their virginity locally for $1000. These aren’t your prototypical streetwalkers. These are normal, pretty, high school girls who fall into this lifestyle in a quest for attention. Read the rest of this entry »

Love isn’t the most sensible of emotions. I’d go so far as to say that love is the mentally handicapped cousin of reason. There’s just something about being in a relationship that causes you to ask stupid  questions you don’t want to know the answers to.

“Were you thinking of Mathew McConaughey the last time we had sex?”

“How big is my junk compared to the other guys you’ve been with?”

“Have I put on weight?” Read the rest of this entry »

As the hunt for my next fuck-buddy continues, I’ve expanded my search parameters and raised my age limit. At least I tried to.

When I was younger I vowed I wouldn’t date anyone more than eight years older than me, but as I grew up, my lovers and boyfriends got progressively younger. To be honest, I hadn’t even thought about dating older men until the other night. Read the rest of this entry »

I had a busy weekend. Three fuck-buddy applicants and not a single one qualified for the position.

Friday night I started out texting applicant 1.

“What are you doing later?”

“Staying home. Do you want to fuck tonight and then 2 times a week?”

At first I wasn’t sure if I was turned on or repelled by his directness. I haven’t had sex with this friend in 11 months, which is a long leave of absence for him to try and schedule twice a week sex. Having just got out of a serious relationship, this proposal sounded more like a boyfriend than a fuck-buddy. I wasn’t ready to commit to such a strenuous schedule. Besides, if I wanted to fuck this guy twice a week, I wouldn’t have avoided him for 11 months. Read the rest of this entry »