The woman begins on her back with her legs comfortably in front of her. The man kneels at her feet, raises her legs in the air, and pulls her all the way up until only her head and shoulders remain on the bed or floor. The woman may want to hook her feet around his shoulders while he enters her vagina.
On a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate this position? This position gets an 8.5 on the ‘Dichter’ scale! Read the rest of this entry »
Originally reported by the Dailymail.co, The British designer store, Debenhams, recently researched who buys men’s underwear. What they found reveals a bit more about relationship trends that just who controls the wallet.
Men only buy their own underwear for seventeen years of their lives. This responsibility is relegated to mothers and wives the rest of the time. Read the rest of this entry »
Hey there.
It was really nice meeting you the other night at [name of club, bar, or mutual friend'
s house]. I really liked the ensemble you were wearing. I’m not one to boast, but I can spot a well-made garment when I see one. Your shoes were really cute too. I’m really sorry I spilled Miller Lite all over them mid-pop ‘n’ lock. But I think I should tell you right now, I’m a sucker for red lips and high-heels…so I really feel like you nailed that one. Bravo. But enough about my inner drag queen and killer dance moves.
I want you to know that I’m a good girlfriend. Read the rest of this entry »
Until recently there has been relatively little research that combats or supports the common conservative argument that gay couples are unfit foster parents. As reported in a recent New York Times article, the studies on gay parents are finally coming in, proving what half of the nation already suspected: gay parents provide the same quality of upbringing as their straight counterparts, with a few improvements.
The findings are reported in Abbie E. Goldberg’s new book, Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their Children, which analysis more than 100 academic studies on the subject. Read the rest of this entry »
Cheating: to practice fraud or deceit; or informally to be sexually unfaithful.
Although this definition seems clear-cut, what constitutes cheating in a relationship is often ambiguous. For some, cheating includes intercourse but not oral sex. Some count French kissing but not closed mouth kisses. But what about holding hands or snuggling — physical acts that are more associated with emotional connections than physical acts of passion? To take it a step further, can you cheat without physically touching someone else? Is fantasizing about someone else during sex cheating? What about flirting online? Believe it or not, Wikipedia actually has a page for this subject, describing it as an affair of the heart. Read the rest of this entry »
“Hi! I live in Tampa. A while ago, I dreamt that I was getting married. Everything seemed to be normal at the wedding, until I looked at a picture that someone had taken. My gown was black, as were my bridesmaids. The whole male wedding party was also wearing nothing but black! I’m only 14 years old, don’t have a boyfriend, and definitely DON’T want to be married. Can you tell me what this means?” (sic)
It’s interesting that at an age when young girls fantasize about boys, weddings, marriage, etc., you are sooo adamant that you DON’T want to get married. What’s up with that?
I’ll tell you. Read the rest of this entry »
In this over-medicated age, drug companies continue expanding their empires into the farthest realms of human behavior, developing chemical cocktails for whatever ails us: if depressed take Prozac, if scatterbrained take Adderall, if sleepless take Ambien, if impotent take Viagra… Now researchers are searching for drugs that will help you stay in love.
Consider how people often attribute their inability to remain in a relationship to psychological reasons, saying such things as, “I’m not happy anymore,” or “the spark is gone.” In a sense, a lack of love is simply a chemical imbalance, which theoretically can be corrected. Someday soon drug companies may develop a prescription pill that helps you stay in love the same way Rogaine sustains hair. Read the rest of this entry »
“Sex is always the answer. It’s never a question. And the answer is yes. Yes. YES!” –Nickelback.
Sex is a great answer to most every relationship problem, unless you’re with someone who’s never in the mood or uses sex as a punishment. So you had a fight. Nothing resolves the issue or rekindles your lust for one another like a passionate bout of makeup sex. Doctors have long preached the health benefits of a good sex life–relieves stress, strengthens the heart, and improves breathing–but it’s also a great way to maintain a healthy relationship. Read the rest of this entry »
“Hi Dream Momma, I like your blog and was hoping you can help me as I think about this dream a lot. In the dream, I went with my family to visit my first love (of nearly a decade ago). I went in the house, and it was empty. Saw some things of his, then he appeared. We talked a little, all politely, openly, heart-achily. He wasn’t happy in his life, then his sister came in the room. She was really sweet, and was also stuck in a less than desirable situation. My current love joined us in the room and convo, and we ended up sitting and hugging all together, knowing that the shit was over, and we would help each other escape into happiness back in Atlanta. It was amazingly emotional.” (sic)
Dream Momma likes this healing dream. Read the rest of this entry »
Social networking sites like Facebook have changed the face of modern dating, but this new technology isn’t without its flaws. We’ve all had a “friend” who has been caught flirting or cheating via illicit Facebook messages. One woman even discovered her marriage was over when her spouse spontaneously changed his relationship status to single. Below are a few awesomely hilarious examples of the various ways Facebook can f-up your dating life.
(pics originally posted on collegehumor.com) Read the rest of this entry »
“Dream Momma, I am a 45-year-old, married, black female professional living in Tampa. I have been having an online “affair,” if you will call it that, for 3 years with a white man. My husband, who is also a professional, travels a lot with his job. I have met my online lover, and although we have shared embraces, we have not shared a bed.
This dream begins with me on my bed and my husband in the sitting room that is off our bedroom. There is a curtain there, so I cannot actually see him but I hear him as he moves about. He is watching TV. My lover enters my bedroom wearing just a long tee shirt and crawls onto the bed with me. I am not surprised to see him; it is as if he does this often. He snuggles up behind me and is very amorous. I am watching the crack in the curtain. I suggest that we go to another room.
We go the bathroom that is just beyond my laundry room. There is a cot set up for him. He apparently stays here often. But the washer has been moved into the bathroom and I am concerned that my husband will come into this room to tend to the washer. So I am emptying the washer and taking clothes from the toilet(?) that appear to be clean. I am trying frantically to stay ahead of my husband in thought.
I hear him come into the laundry room and he is doing something with the dryer. My lover is starting to say something and I am signaling him not to talk but he continues to whisper. My husband is close enough that I could touch him if there were no wall and I am almost crazed that I can’t seem to make my lover understand that he should not talk AT ALL.
He finally makes me understand that he has left his belt out in the house somewhere. He thinks maybe my bedroom, and he is not sure where his pants are. My head is about spin off as I try to imagine where he might have left his things and if I can get to them before my husband sees them – as they are not the same body types and do not share a sense of style. Help me understand this dream please.” (sic)
Dream Momma will try. The first thing that is of significance is the fact that whenever your husband appears in the dream there is something concrete between you (a curtain, a wall). That is important. It means there IS something between you in real, waking, life that is interfering with marital intimacy (and Dream Momma doesn’t mean just sex). Read the rest of this entry »
A ‘dating’ lifestyle for a single dad can be fraught with many nightmarish consequences. For example, I cannot bring a woman home without being asked what happened to the last woman I dated. My kids usually ask for her by name. Nothing kills a mood quicker than mentioning another woman’s name to your current date—except maybe calling your current date by another woman’s name. Read the rest of this entry »
“Hello Dream Momma!
I saw your video from the St. Petersburg short film festival on http://www.roblimo.com/ and a dream that I had in the wee hours of Saturday came to mind. I was starting a job at a company I worked for 25 years ago, and only one person was still there (she would be close to 70 now and I haven’t had any contact with her in probably 20+ years). A gentleman in a suit, carrying a large bouquet of flowers (fall colors, I remember distinctly with no roses) had a single red rose in his other hand, which he gave to me and said welcome back. I knew this person wasn’t an employee, however I did thank him and call him by his name…Morley Safer. “Thank you, Morley!”
I normally don’t have dreams stick in my mind but this one was way far out there to say the least. Any clues as to what it might mean?” (sic)
I sure do! It’s a wonderful, affirming dream. Your unconscious, via your dream guide, is Read the rest of this entry »
It might surprise some of you to know that I am not the “relationship type”…. now that you’re done laughing, I would like to present you with a very serious idea. Very. Serious.
Although I may not have normal female impulses to attach myself to another human being and then to make annoying miniature versions of ourselves, from time to time parts (ONLY PARTS) of that scenario seem appealing.
For example, I often find myself hung over and in need of someone to get me an egg McMuffin. This past Saturday was no exception. I did the heinous “wake up on the bathroom floor” move that is always supposed to be a wake up call, but usually just makes me laugh (not the best sign). Read the rest of this entry »
“Dream Momma, keep having the same kind of dream the past 3 nights. i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and i keep having dreams that he is going to break up with me sooner or later. Our relationship hasn’t always been perfect, but we have been through a lot and are still together. If i keep dreaming that, is it going to come true?” (sic)
You have had a series of prophetic, warning, dreams and yes, he will break up with you unless you deal with the relationship now.
You’re lucky, the upside to a prophetic dream is that it Read the rest of this entry »
Our loves holes lose elasticity with age, usage, and childbirth, which is unfortunate because the tightness of the anus and vagina contribute to sexual pleasure for both men and women. This is why it’s necessary to exercise these muscles daily.
While I was in nursing school, one of my instructors continually made negative commits about anal sex and how it destroyed the body. To give you an idea of how ignorant she was, when a gay student pointed out that not all gay men participated in anal sex she said, “Yeah right!” I eventually dropped that class. She was either homophobic or just trying to justify why she wouldn’t let her husband do her in the ass. She was probably one of those uptight people who didn’t like sex anyway. Read the rest of this entry »
“I was surrounded by a bunch of people I used to work with at the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. The dream felt pretty benign; more thoughtful than interactive. I considered each person & what my relationship with them had been like. There were at least one or two significant people missing. I didn’t really talk with them at all in the dream. I was more accepting of them, viewed them objectively, than when we worked together. It was in muted color, if that matters. I think I felt some surprise at how peaceful the gathering was, considering the environment we all moved in when we were known to one another. Some of these folks really disliked me & visa versa, but in this dream there was no animosity. Actually, it was very clinical – there was no feeling one way or another among the ’subjects.’ I felt comfortable, but other than that, I don’t recall any other emotions.”
Here is the most important part of your ho-hum dream: muted colors. “There were at least one or two significant people missing.” Dream Momma suggests that those significant dream people represent your true feelings; the feelings you are, for some insane reason, blocking off. Read the rest of this entry »
Many articles try to correlate personalities with purchases: cars, pets, and clothes. Just for fun I’m going to correlate a person’s sexual personality with the type of wine they drink.
White Wines such as Chardonnay, Pinot Grigio/Pinot Gris, Rieslings, Sauvignon Blancs can be sweet, dry, or somewhere in between. Sex with a white wine drinker can range from missionary sex to an SNM scene. This person is full of surprises. Have fun and look out. Read the rest of this entry »
The internal prostate massage is one of the most sexually stimulating practices you can do for a man, and it’s healthy. I started milking the prostate a few years ago after reading some literature on the subject. It was more than difficult getting my then 46-year-old husband to try it, but once I did he enjoyed it.
Milking keeps the blood moving and releases seminal fluid. Some men aren’t into having anything in their anus, so a perineum massage can also be stimulating as well. The perineum is a small, smooth patch of skin located between the testicles and the anus. By pressing down on this area, not too hard, this will indirectly stimulate the prostate. I usually use this technique when I’m masturbating my husband. Again, I enjoy using ky-warming gel and it drives him nuts. Read the rest of this entry »
It stands to reason that at some point in our lives, we are going to have to deal with the, “sex/relationship with a co-worker” situation.
Most of us spend more time at the office than anywhere else. It’s a great dating pool, as long as you ignore every rule of human resources and don’t mind the fact that you will be haunted by said sex or relationship until one of you quits or dies. Read the rest of this entry »
Sometimes when I hear a person say, “having sex,” I start to wonder what kind of sex? When I was growing up, “having sex,” meant sexual intercourse involving the penis and vagina. Doggy style was considered kinky. Today I find that most of my peers are willing to experiment with different kinds of sex, especially if they are new divorcees or if they just want to spice things up. But, sex has changed since we were kids. Sometimes when I hear a sexual reference I don’t understand, I ask my 22-year-old son to explain it. This just goes to show that new sexual practices are constantly being created. However, for the purposes of this quick guide to sex, I’m only going to discuss: intercourse (penis and vagina), oral (mouth on penis), anal (penis in anus), and masturbation. Read the rest of this entry »
Dream Momma,
“Okay, so I am dating this girl which I am a female…and I’ve also dated her cousin. Who is a guy. He calls and talks to her but asks for me at first. Is it to hear my voice?…now I’ve let go of him other than as a friends because of dating his cousin. But I still have dreams about him, our relationship ended bad. And my dreams are always about him apologizing and saying he screwed up for ever leaving me and he begs me to take him back well in my dream I always take him back…and we end up having sex. My dream feels so real…what do I do about this…what could it mean I should do?”
So, as I understand it, you were sexually involved with cousins, one female, and one male. You are a female. Read the rest of this entry »
Everyone has a list… a list of people you are allowed to sleep with while you’re in a relationship. For some, the realization of this list may not actually be “allowed,” but the list exists nonetheless.
In the beginning of my four year relationship, my boyfriend and I both mentioned people on our respective lists. I originally thought it was strange to talk about other people we lusted after, but times have changed and the list continues to evolve. I’ve seen a few of the people on my list recently and wasn’t impressed. They have since been replaced.
In the 80’s I did some things I’m not proud of, one of which was having sex with a married man. Yeah it was fun and he gave me money and lots of things, but eventually my morals kicked in and I broke it off. This guy had a horrible sex life with his wife who wasn’t bad looking. Today I find a similar situation with many male acquaintances who are not satisfied with their love lives. I understand that after10 or 30 years of marriage, sex can get a bit boring, so I’m here to provide a few tips to help keep things lively in the sack. Read the rest of this entry »
I’ve spoken with many women about their experiences dating older men. After repeatedly hearing the same
pros and cons, I decided to compile a list of tips for men who would like to successfully date younger women. You’re welcome.
1) Don’t make a big deal about the age difference. You can’t completely avoid the discussion, but unless she specifically finds it exciting (some do), don’t bring it up often. Avoid making her feel like a fetish item. Instead, let her know that you really like her and she just happens to be younger. Read the rest of this entry »
Welcome to a new edition of How To Write A Novel.
Bringing an entire story together without any relationships would be difficult, even if the relationship isn’t a romance. Consider Neo and Trinity, Martin Riggs and Lorna Cole, Bella Swan and Jacob Black, Harry Potter and Hermione Granger, Sam Witwicky and Mikaela Banes, to name a few.
Here are a few questions often raised in my writing group: What is enough and when is it too much? If you write for young adults, should there be sex? Young people have sex, use drugs, and drink alcohol, but should I write about these things? Read the rest of this entry »
Online surveys are all the rage. CL is even busy running our own for Best of the Bay. Particularly with sex surveys, you can’t help but wonder how accurate the findings are. For the most part, the sample group is composed of the same people who sign up for enter-to-win-contests on pop-up ads or who repost annoying Facebook surveys that describe what A-Team member or Golden Girl you would be. Still, sex surveys are interesting because they reassure us that we’re not alone in our deviant addictions.
After reviewing several online sex surveys, I’ve included the results of two below. The first is shocking because of how tame it is. The other will make your sex life seem about as adventurous as that of an Amish widow. Read the rest of this entry »
The reverse spoon is a simple variation of the old stand-by spoon. It involves taking one partner and spinning them around, so instead of lying head to head and toe to toe, you are both facing each others’ lower extremities. This position offers both deep penetration and the obvious easy grab of your partner’s important goodies. Wash your feet and don’t get too carried away with this top 10 position that’s a favorite of just about anyone who tries it.
On a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate the position? A 9 from both the woman and man.
Did you have difficulty getting into the position? Even two drunks can lazily fall into this position… Read the rest of this entry »
Wanna give the backdoor a try, eh? Good for you. Why not, right? Think of it as a new and exciting addition to your sexual repertoire.
Nervous? So was I, but with years of reading, discussions, and practice under my belt, I’ve gathered a few pointers to ensure that your anal experience will be a positive one. Read the rest of this entry »
Thought I’d share a dream I’ve had for years…ever since I was a teen. Not sure what it means, but I have to say I remember it clearly even though I have not had it for about three years now. I think of it every so often though. 
I realize that I am on the tip of a needle on a record player. I see myself from different angles…I am the tip of the needle, I am going through the eye of it – well, I sense that I am. I don’t see myself going through the eye physically. Then I see the record spinning under me. Next I am on the arm on top of the record and I see from that angle, and then I see myself atop the arm.
Never did find out why it was a reoccurring dream for years, why I dreamt it or why it stopped. It bugs me not to know what it meant. Never did get the name of the record playing. Read the rest of this entry »
After reading Dirty Talk 101 and Dirty Talk 201, you’re ready to turn the heat up.
I’ll admit that a few times while working on a chat line, the caller would actually turn me on with vivid details of what he looked like, at least in both of our minds. I’d react to his voice and start imagining myself what it would be like to fuck him. Men like these made me enjoy talking dirty and making callers cum with just my words. The excitement of making a man with just your voice is orgasmic. When done right, the rush is orgasmic!!
(language below NSFW)
Why would I, a straight man, review a collection of essays about women’s sex lives, and more importantly, why would I choose to do so on my honeymoon? Either I’m a caring husband searching for insight into pleasing my new wife, or I’m a calculating bastard researching ways to maneuver through discreet affairs. Whatever the case, I started Behind the Bedroom Door, expecting a series of romantic comedy plot lines: a torrent of quirky yet troubled sexual encounters redeemed by a meaningful relationship still in its honeymoon phase. After all, who’d write an essay about their lukewarm sex life when their current partner was sure to read it (coincidentally my marital sex life is like the opening night of a Cirque Du Soleil performance). Read the rest of this entry »
Immaculate pool conception: Magdalena Kwitatkowska sued an Egyptian hotel after discovering that her 13-year-old daughter, whom she believes is a virgin, was impregnated by a stray sperm while swimming in the hotel’s pool.
A good excuse: In Australia, charges of driving without a license were dropped after the 24 year-old defendant explained to the judge why he so desperately needed to drive to his cousin’s house: “My cousin was about to [have sex with] this girl and he needed his bag because it had his condoms in it.” Read the rest of this entry »
Dear Dream Momma, This little dream has been bothering me so I thought I would send it to you. In the dream my boss and his wife stopped by my house and my bed wasn’t made. (I always make my bed every day unless I’m so sick that i need to be in it.)
Hi Messy Bed Dreamer. I’m going to assume that when your boss and his wife stopped by you weren’t really sick in bed. So, what are you sick of? The dream says your job. The house is your life and the bed is your job, relationship, family, health, lifestyle, religion, social life, (Circle all that apply). Read the rest of this entry »
I don’t look at every sexual encounter as having to happen with someone I’m in love with or even dating. I’m a woman and I love to have sex with men I’m attracted to. Some call it meaningless sex. Some call it evolved sex. I just call it sex. Read the rest of this entry »
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